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Is Your Spouse Cheating? 10 Tech Clues that Give Them Away

by on July 21, 2015
in Family and Parenting, Computers and Software, Phones and Mobile, Home Safety & Security, Tips & How-Tos :: 14 comments

Man with lipstick on collarThirty-seven million cheating husbands, wives, boyfriends and girlfriends that turned to Ashley Madison for an illicit affair are holding their breath this week to see if they’ll be exposed by the hacker group The Impact Team. Even if the names aren’t revealed, the breach serves as a reminder that lovers that are engaged in an affair can often be tripped up by the technology they use. In fact, there are many tech clues cheaters leave behind on their cell phones, computers and other electronic gadgets that you can look for.

A word of caution

Before engaging in any electronic snooping, be aware that there are strong federal and state electronic-eavesdropping and hacking laws in place to protect our privacy. It would be wise to consult with an attorney to ensure you don't engage in any activities that are in violation of the law—if you end up in a nasty divorce, being charged with spying crimes is not a good position to be in.

Tech clues to a cheating spouse

1. Calls on your spouse's cell phone

Are there numerous calls to numbers you don’t recognize, especially at odd hours of the day or night? You can often determine who owns a particular landline number simply by entering the number into Google search.

2. Cell phone address book names and numbers you don’t recognize

Chances are your spouse won’t take the risk of entering the full name of the person he or she is cheating with, so look for numbers that are identified merely with initials or a first name. Or, he or she may add a lover’s number to a family member or friend’s contact entry to mask his or her identity.

3. Incriminating text messages and emails

Text messages and emails are the modern means of sending love letters, and your spouse may have kept them on his or her phone for ongoing enjoyment. And be sure to check the "deleted items" or "trash" folder. People frequently let their discarded emails linger for weeks before they're permanently erased.

Also look for secondary messaging apps like SnapChat that are designed for temporary sharing of text messages, photos and videos.

4. Voicemail messages

Perhaps your spouse chose to save a couple of the steamy ones for later playback. And if your spouse uses your carrier’s visual voicemail feature, the messages may be backed up online.

5. A second cell phone or SIM card

If your spouse is clever, he or she will be using a second cell phone—or just a second SIM card—-for communicating with his or her lover. However, people slip up occasionally. If your spouse calls you from a cell phone number you don’t recognize, that may be cause for suspicion. Try calling the other number when your spouse is home and see how they react. If you happen to find an extra SIM card, stick it in a phone and see what phone numbers are stored on it.

6. Apps to hide messages or apps

There are apps available, such as NQ Mobile Vault, that let you store text messages, phone contacts, photos and more in a password-protected, encrypted folder on your smartphone. If you find one of these apps and there's no obvious reason why your spouse would need it, that may be cause for suspicion. And if your spouse chose an app with poor security, accessing the contents can be quite easy.

There are ways to hide apps on iPhones by nesting them in folders. But those apps can still be found using the iOS search feature (touch the middle of the screen and swipe down).

For Android devices, you’ll want to open the menu in the app drawer and select “Show hidden apps.” Other apps, like NQ Mobile Vault, require a hidden passcode, so you may not find anything.

7. Computer's browsing history

If your spouse is supposed to be on a business trip to Seattle but browsing hotels in New York, this is where the browser history can help you out. Also, the browser history may reveal whether they're visiting email sites (e.g., Gmail, Hotmail) where you didn't know they had an account.

8. Frequent-flier account

Did your spouse purchase an extra ticket with miles or are there frequent-flier miles for a trip to New York when they were supposed to be in Seattle? You may be able to log in to your spouse's account online if their login info is stored in the browser or password bank, otherwise check their email for their monthly statement.

9. Toll pass history

If you use E-ZPass or another toll payment system in your cars, check the online statement. Is there unusual activity showing your spouse driving on the New Jersey Turnpike when they’re supposed to be at work in Westchester?

10. Previous destinations in your spouse’s navigation system

Practically every nav system—built-in, portable and on your phone—has a list of previous destinations. If the No-Tell Motel off the Jersey Turnpike is on there and your spouse doesn’t work in the hospitality business, that’s a sign something may be up.

Updated on 7/21/2015 with new recommendations.

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Paula not Paul.

From Darlene Cunningham on November 16, 2012 :: 12:14 pm

The name is Paula not Paul. There is a big difference.



Agreed! I've fixed. That's for

From Suzanne Kantra on November 16, 2012 :: 12:23 pm

Agreed! I’ve fixed. Thanks for pointing it out!



i checked and found out many things

From maria on November 16, 2012 :: 12:28 pm

i did it.
looked and found the text messages and the marriage is now over and done with.
its been three years. it was awful and am so glad i found out. kept it secret until after i was out of the house. then i told what i knew.



Low Battery

From Carol on November 16, 2012 :: 6:20 pm

I heard of a guy who had his mistress identified on his phones, even the land line, as Low Battery! Thought that was pretty ingenious.



title: them should be him

From Wendy on December 16, 2012 :: 8:32 am

Just the one spous at the time.



So many ways a cheater can keep it under wraps

From Kim on November 24, 2014 :: 7:52 am

Good article. It is always a sad thing to find yourself in such a spot as the investigator with your own partner. Let me say this though first. If you suddenly get that uneasy gut feeling, trust it. Don’t go and ask your partner. Investigate first because cheaters always lie. Then they cover up better knowing you were on to them. Act like you know nothing and start digging for evidence THATS bullet proof.

Yes it’s true cheaters may put lovers under names like j. Peters. Even john peters and it’s really a woman’s nimber. Or Barbara Kline and its a male lovers name. But the other thing cheaters do is put lovers under names of people the call often, such as their mother. There’s always space for multiple numbers in our contact list. So check your partners call logs and go further by checking what they have for numbers for their mom. See a number you don’t reconise? And you just thought your partner was really working on that brotherly bond he claims needed mending.  Yep, that’s a good way to fool you!  If their call log is deleted, messages deleted then that’s super suspicious. I never delete my messages. I hang on to messages in case I need to refer back to them
There’s also those calls that use throw away phone numbers. So lover will call from a differnt number all together next week. If you call back a number and it’s not in service its a pretty good chance that’s what kind of number it was. Also people get 800 numbers to communicate with the lover.  There’s also snap chat which is for sharing naughty pictures with a lover and not worry it will still be in your phone when your wife or husband uses the phone.the picture dissolved itself so you Didnt have to think about all that work. Well, as I always say there’s nothing 100% safe and there’s always a trail somewhere.  Snap chat now has an app that captures those naughty pics and stores them on the phone of the receiver. Sounds like trouble to me. There’s a hundreds of ways to sneak around that’s for sure. Cheaters are very tired people!



Cheating hubby

From mara on April 30, 2015 :: 11:36 pm

Thank you for this site and information as I am driving myself insane…...




From jalitza garcia on May 29, 2015 :: 7:12 pm

How to tell if my husband to be is a cheater?



I'll be more than happy

From Cindy on July 21, 2015 :: 1:38 pm

I’ll be more than happy to provide the hackers with a list of websites to take down- I must get over 70 spam emails a day from skankwhores looking for sex, and for some reason they think I’m a male- even though my public profile says I’m a married woman.
Karma: Ashley Maddison got what they fully deserve, I hope all their clients get exposed.




From sharon on July 25, 2015 :: 1:08 pm

thank you Allan! the work you did on my husbands account was phenomenal. thank goodness you rock! If you ever need spywork done on anyone, clear criminal records, hack into any account including banks or simply have a bone to pick with someone .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) is the go to guy




From K on August 10, 2015 :: 12:32 pm

I am married, not really computer savvy.  And I don’t even know what JavaScript is!  Can you get me in touch with “Allan”?



It's spam

From Josh Kirschner on August 10, 2015 :: 1:40 pm

That’s just comment spam. Normally we delete those messages, but we must have missed that one. We’re leaving it up so we can respond to your message and help alert others to ignore these types of messages you may see elsewhere.

99% of the time these things are complete scams, and you’ll lose your money. On the off chance these folks are real, then you’re hiring someone to commit a crime. Don’t do it.



Great tips on how to

From Mary on September 28, 2015 :: 1:56 am

Great tips on how to get your cheating spouse, i don’t know if this will not work but more or less this will really work. I would like to share something. I have a friend she said that she saw an unfamiliar name in her husband phone I talked to her and said that some people who cheat tend to save the number with different name. So i said why don’t you try calling it, then the rest you know what happened i guess.


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From Linda Liedtke on December 01, 2015 :: 9:47 am

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